Lots of stuff to comment on here.
1 - Agree with the first segment wholeheartedly.
2 - Agree here as well. It drove me nuts in SB when I saw folks say, "I'm the best scout player because I've never died." Look, if you're not pushing the envelope to the point where you're attempting the impossible, then you'll never get any better. You've artificially placed a skill cap on your ability to play the game. I quite distinctly recall defending a desert city in a siege against more than 60 players. When I logged in as the sixth player on our side, it was 1am EDT, the enemy had taken the tree, and the fight appeared to be lost - they were predominantly a European guild and we were mostly US players, so they were growing in strength as folks logged in Saturday morning overseas. Several hours later, we won. That was 14 years ago, and I can still recall a blow-by blow account of much of those two hours. Those are some of my best memories.
3 - No outcome is 100% predetermined when you are dealing with humans. There's far too much randomness in the psyche to accurately predict every individual's response to certain actions. That's what makes PvP SO much more interesting than PvE.