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I'm not sure if there are any Bronies here, but I hope so. I have need of advice. 

 

My tween is a devoted fan of MLP; the show, his Derpy backpack, figurines, plush toys, etc. I find no harm in his interest; in fact, I love to watch MLP with him. It's a phase, it's cute, and I see no reason to interfere. 

 

The other day my son came home from school, wearing sad face, something obviously on his mind. It took him a little while to open up and tell me that a little boy, a friend, had told him (my tween) that he isn't allowed in their house because he likes MLP. Of course, I told him that people like that are mean and ignorant, and that he's free to let his MLP love shine. 

 

Here's my problem: I really want to call/text/visit the mom in question. I really want to punch her in her sour face and drag her around the neighborhood by her frazzled red hair. I really want to cause her PAIN for being such a self-righteous bugger. I know I CAN'T do that, and I SHOULDN'T do that; so, what do I do? 

 

Bronies, teach me. 

 

Iridian

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I'm not sure if there are any Bronies here, but I hope so. I have need of advice. 

 

My tween is a devoted fan of MLP; the show, his Derpy backpack, figurines, plush toys, etc. I find no harm in his interest; in fact, I love to watch MLP with him. It's a phase, it's cute, and I see no reason to interfere. 

 

The other day my son came home from school, wearing sad face, something obviously on my mind. It took him a little while to open up and tell me that a little boy, a friend, had told him (my tween) that he isn't allowed in their house because he likes MLP. Of course, I told him that people like that are mean and ignorant, and that he's free to let his MLP love shine. 

 

Here's my problem: I really want to call/text/visit the mom in question. I really want to punch her in her sour face and drag her around the neighborhood by her frazzled red hair. I really want to cause her PAIN for being such a self-righteous bugger. I know I CAN'T do that, and I SHOULDN'T do that; so, what do I do? 

 

Bronies, teach me. 

 

Iridian

Take your own advice that you gave to your son.  "People like that are mean and ignorant, and that he's free to let his MLP love shine."  Then ignore them, and move on.

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Take your own advice that you gave to your son.  "People like that are mean and ignorant, and that he's free to let his MLP love shine."  Then ignore them, and move on.

I know! It's my momma bear rage thing making me vengeful. I WANT to pick this fight, even though I know it's pointless. 

 

I'm so frustrated with peoples' narrow minds. And my boy is an awesome kid; he shouldn't be subject to such mean-spiriteness from adults. 

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Is the other boy still coming over?

 

If not, then the whole thing might be just something the other kid said, because he doesn't want to play with your son anymore. Instead of taking the blame/hate himself he used his parents/mother as an excuse.

 

Just saying. Because it sounds extremely stupid for a grown up to discriminate against a kid, because of such a non-issue.

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I know! It's my momma bear rage thing making me vengeful. I WANT to pick this fight, even though I know it's pointless. 

 

I'm so frustrated with peoples' narrow minds. And my boy is an awesome kid; he shouldn't be subject to such mean-spiriteness from adults. 

 

Don't you think you should be rational here?  Kids are unpleasant people.  Parents typically have no idea that their kid is being said unpleasant person.  Maybe you should politely reach out to the mom and see if she even KNOWS that her kid said that.  

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Ignore this post if you'll only listen to bronies.

 

I know that the role-playing of your son's friend's mother is annoying because it is narrow-minded and limits creativity.

Banning your boy from her house makes me think that she likely believes he is gay and she wants to stop the spread of femininity like an infection.

Truly, feminine interests like MLP and tea parties don't cause children to become gay (molestation can, different topic).

My grandson played tea parties with our daughter his age, and she played masculine role-play games with him. Neither of them is gay now.

My grandson has a little girlfriend, male friends, plays sports, etc. It's even possible that forbidding an interest would cause a closet fixation on the subject.

 

Having said that, children that age are extremely conscious of social norms, and punish other children who display behavior outside those norms routinely.

Bullying is being dealt with in public schools better than it ever has before, but our society is trying to fight the instinct to ostracize anomalies.

Bullying is still around.

Personally, I believe that the middle ground, where your boy keeps his creative interests, but hides them from the bullies in school is the best for his mental health.

Everyone wears masks in modern society, if only a smile when we're sad, and it may be time for your son to try one on.

Just be sure he knows it is always wrong to tolerate or join in on any bullying behavior, and he shouldn't lie when asked directly about his proclivities

(too easy to get caught, then he'd lose honor).

Of course, broadcasting the MLP love can teach him to toughen up, because it will likely get him jumped and beaten by his peers at some point. 

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Is the other boy still coming over?

 

If not, then the whole thing might be just something the other kid said, because he doesn't want to play with your son anymore. Instead of taking the blame/hate himself he used his parents/mother as an excuse.

 

Just saying. Because it sounds extremely stupid for a grown up to discriminate against a kid, because of such a non-issue.

They played in the pool together on Saturday. It may have been because there were only 3 boys at the pool, but I heard no indication of squabbling. Usually, I hear whining and arguing between kids when they're tired of each other. It happens. But who knows. The boy was at my apartment for hours a day for several weeks until a couple of weeks ago. 

 

I know it sounds extremely stupid. Unfortunately, I live in a fairly backward city in the Southeast. There's lots of stupid down here. 

 

Don't you think you should be rational here?  Kids are unpleasant people.  Parents typically have no idea that their kid is being said unpleasant person.  Maybe you should politely reach out to the mom and see if she even KNOWS that her kid said that.  

I'm trying to be rational, but it's sooooo hard! In 15 years of parenting, I've never encountered such a situation. In my experience, 8 year old kids haven't developed the unpleasant person tendency yet. Mostly, they model their parents' thinking and attitudes at that age. 

 

I thought of talking to her, but as I said earlier, I know picking this battle is a futile exercise. I know the outcome will be a verbal sparing match that will only waste my energy and words. 

 

 

I should explain, so I don't look like a Jerry Springer candidate, that I'm an advocate for LGBTQ students and the advisor to the student gaming club at my college. I hear a lot of stories of stigma from people who are deemed "different" and "other". I'm perhaps more attuned to the issue of Bronies because of these associations. 

 

Really, I suppose I'm looking for perspective and advice from others who have had similar parenting and/or life experiences. 

 

Thanks for the thoughts so far. I appreciate it :)

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Nothing you can do but be accepting. Its hard growing up in the Southeast when you're "different" is tough so the best thing you can do is just support him and tell him to forget other peoples judgements.

You are so incredibly helpful, CYT. I don't know how I ever managed to do anything before we met. I was just bumbling my way through life, all lost-like. Thank you. My blessing cup runneth over.

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Well, IMHO, parental intervention, while beneficial for "small" children , seems to only prolong the "drama" for tweens.  The parents will be hashing things out and over long after the tweens have long forgotten it.   You can't change anyone or their views.  The only one you have any control over is yourself.   As long as he is ok with his likes and dislikes he is ok as long as he realizes that he can not force them on anyone else.   Kids are cruel, parents can be crueler.   Middle school is a nightmare.   Trying to make things "better" usually makes things worse, in the long run.   More ridicule that Mama got so involved.   

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Please tell me this is some low level tro*lling. No one would come on these boards asking for parenting advice.

 

My baby daughter watches MLP, if I had a tween son, there's no way in hell I'd let him watch it. Hope that's the baited response you were looking for, OP.

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Please tell me this is some low level tro*lling. No one would come on these boards asking for parenting advice.

 

My baby daughter watches MLP, if I had a tween son, there's no way in hell I'd let him watch it. Hope that's the baited response you were looking for, OP.

It's called seeking perspective, in this case from people who've experienced something similar. Social behavior, ya know? 

 

But thank you for your advice. 

 

Have a nice day :)

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It's called seeking perspective, in this case from people who've experienced something similar. Social behavior, ya know? 

 

But thank you for your advice. 

 

Have a nice day :)

Alright, some real advice then. If you want to understand your kid and get the perspective from someone 20 years older than him, still living with their parents, carrying around body pillows, and fapping to mlp porn....if you want to get a grasp on the type of culture your kiddo will be involved in if he's not broken of it by his adult years....go to 4chan's /mlp/. Go ask them your questions there OP.

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boy, girl, i don't see it being creepy if it's the target demo

 

i mean like the Internet will make EVERYTHING creepy and sexual (people are listing after the HAMBURGLER now lolol) so if you watch his internet use mlp shouldn't warp him

 

 

 

p.s. steven universe is really really good (a way better "girls" show even) and the fans aren't nearly as weird, just sayin

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Ignore this post if you'll only listen to bronies.

 

I know that the role-playing of your son's friend's mother is annoying because it is narrow-minded and limits creativity.

Banning your boy from her house makes me think that she likely believes he is gay and she wants to stop the spread of femininity like an infection.

Truly, feminine interests like MLP and tea parties don't cause children to become gay (molestation can, different topic).

My grandson played tea parties with our daughter his age, and she played masculine role-play games with him. Neither of them is gay now.

My grandson has a little girlfriend, male friends, plays sports, etc. It's even possible that forbidding an interest would cause a closet fixation on the subject.

 

Having said that, children that age are extremely conscious of social norms, and punish other children who display behavior outside those norms routinely.

Bullying is being dealt with in public schools better than it ever has before, but our society is trying to fight the instinct to ostracize anomalies.

Bullying is still around.

Personally, I believe that the middle ground, where your boy keeps his creative interests, but hides them from the bullies in school is the best for his mental health.

Everyone wears masks in modern society, if only a smile when we're sad, and it may be time for your son to try one on.

Just be sure he knows it is always wrong to tolerate or join in on any bullying behavior, and he shouldn't lie when asked directly about his proclivities

(too easy to get caught, then he'd lose honor).

Of course, broadcasting the MLP love can teach him to toughen up, because it will likely get him jumped and beaten by his peers at some point. 

SO much wisdom packed in these lines ^^^^^. The best bits emboldened. 

 

Thanks.

 

I'm not so worried about him getting knocked down. He's into boxing at the gym. Little dude's a pugilist in the making. 

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My mom wouldn't let my best friend in the 1st grade come over to play at my house because he was black. And I'm from the south, so I feel ya there. You can't change a parent's mind. Let them live a really long time because they apparently hate themselves. Kids are evil, too. Maybe they're preventing their kid from being a bully? Who knows.

 

I loved the crap out of New Kids on the Block in the 5th grade. We were poor, but my mom got me all the NKOTB back to school stuff like pencil pouches, trapper keeper (say whaaa), etc. I was told I was gay if I liked NKOTB by classmates. So I traded it with some girl so I could have normal looking school stuff. My mom asked me why I traded it and I just told her it was because I don't like NKOTB anymore. Broke her heart.

 

But let me deal with redheads.

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Headlight, that's news to me. I was 99.9% certain you were of African American descent.

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